Yes, Lisa and Maggie are just as bratty as Bart. |
It may sound like I am expecting Little Sheep to be perfect, which of course, I am not. I am expecting her to cry, not want to nap, hate vegetables, and grumble when I don't let her have her way sometimes. I'm expecting her to be a child, not a brat.
Therefore, I have set several goals ahead of myself in order to accomplish my main objective.
1. I plan to attachment parent. This involves many different aspects. Dr. William Sears seems to be the voice on this, but for me, attachment parenting involves the many objectives I have listed below. Babywearing, co-sleeping, breastfeeding, positive discipline, etc. Current belief with reference to attachment parenting is that children are brought up feeling more confident about themselves and their parents. In other words, babies who are taught that they can trust and rely on their parents to help them are more willing and able to experience the world around them, trusting that their parents are there and will keep them safe.
3. I plan to co-sleep. We currently co-sleep during the night, which works out amazingly well for us. Little Sheep sleeps beside me, and I sleep between her and Papa Sheppard. She is warm, comfortable, safe, and neither of us has to get up in the night for feedings, which means more sleep for us. Which means both of us are healthier and happier.
4. I do not plan to let her "cry it out". Personally, there is nothing more heartbreaking than the thought of leaving my poor Little Sheep alone in her room to cry and scream, knowing that she needs something and not understanding why it is that I am not there to help her when she calls. I cannot fathom breaking her trust like that, and I cannot fathom doing that to her. Papa Sheppard and I agreed to that one long before we had Little Sheep. We want her to learn to nap independant of us, but we don't want her to cry and scream the whole time.
5. I plan to get her involved with other children from an early age. Currently, we participate in the Le Leche League meetings once a month, and a weekly baby massage and a weekly mom and baby group. It is important to me that she learns to interact with other kids of different ages and ethnicities. For one, her immune system will get stronger, as kids pass around germs like politicians pass around blame. For another, it will also teach her to share. It bothers me to hear a kid snatch something from another and yell, "Mine!" I want Little Sheep to know the value of giving and sharing with others.
7. I plan on keeping her home and life simple. Toys are simple and minimal. Her favorite rattle is a set of metal measuring spoons. She loves to play with baby blankets and feet. I see no reason to bombard her with bright plastic toys made in China. If we had it my way, I'd have nothing plastic in her toybox. I also do not intend to spend great amounts of money on her toys. Why should I spend $60 on a toy she'll break in five minutes, when I can buy it for $10 on Kijiji? Same with her clothes. She outgrows things so quickly and will continue to do so for many years. I don't intend to buy much new. In this way, she will learn the truth about wealth and value.
9. I plan to keep her well-napped. Little Sheep is not a good napper. Well, let me rephrase that -- she is an excellent napper when she wants to be. Right now she's going into her second hour in her swing. But yesterday, I think she slept about 2 hours all day. This is why it is important to me that she learns to sleep well. I want her to be well rested and happy. Many of the suggestions I've implemented come from Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Nap Solution. Check it out at your library.
11. I plan on being a SAHM. Another aspect Papa Sheppard and I discussed before we were married was my desire to be a SAHM. It was only further reinforced when Little Sheep came along. We both fell madly in love with our family and we know that me being home is the best thing for us all around. Little Sheep will benefit from a good, loving family orientation, which is something I personally don't believe she will find in the care of a stranger. What's more, it is difficult to find caretakers who will provide her with the same values and faith as we do. And finally, based on my calculations and income, it would not be profitable for me to return to work at the cost of daycare in this city. It's just too expensive. It is my hope that I can instead provide daycare for my brother's child once s/he is born next year for my sister-in-law, who makes more than me and who loves her job.
Guess who my favorite artist is? |
Well, in the words of our beloved British crooner, John Lennon,
You may say I'm a dreamer,
But I'm not the only one
I hope some day, you'll join us
And the world will live as one.
If you'll look to your left, you'll see a list of other mom-bloggers that I follow, who share many common thoughts as I do. You'll see that in truth, we are not the only ones to chose this lifestyle and commitment for our children. And from what I understand, it is a healthy, happy child that comes from it.
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